What fresh hell is this?

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Posted by: painsthee Original: 11/3/2009 9:37 PM Views: 42 Comments: 8 eProps: 14 Read Comments Post a Comment Back to Your Xanga Site

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Tuesday, November 03, 2009

Oh, hai.

Still here. Still crazed.

Zeb and I are at the official point where we keep turning to each other and asking, 'Is this damn wedding over yet?'

I am behind in my classwork. I am swamped with work work.

But, underneath it all, I am happy, and I suppose that's what matters.

I *am* tired of people asking about wedding crap. It's not that I mind, it's just that it seems to be all anyone cares about. I am way more interested in Isabella Whitney and the place of her voice in creating a female literary tradition in Early Modern England. That's way more interesting to me than how I plan to wear my hair, you know?

But, in case anyone wonders, here are ten random wedding facts, and then we can dispense with all this nonsense, ok?
1. I am wearing white chuck taylors under the dress.
2. I have no idea how I am wearing my hair. It will probably involve hot rollers.
3. No, I don't want to borrow your pearls.
4. I am changing out of the dress after dinner so that I can actually boogie down and not fall over myself all night.
5. We aren't going on a honeymoon right away, and have no official plans for it yet.
6. Our friend Ryan--who introduced us--is performing the ceremony. No, he;s not a minister, he's a chef.
7. No, I'm not excited about the wedding. I am excited about the marriage. The wedding is just kind of a pain. I like the party part, if people would stop trying to make it such a big fucking deal.
8. People who neglect to RSVP--particularly when I have included a SASE in the invite--can all suck my (metaphorical) balls. And furthermore, they can stand, because I'm not renting them a chair.
9. No cake. Cupcakes. Deal.
10. Yes, we have considered what to do if it rains. Considering that's what it does 59% of the time in TN in the fall, we did amazingly think to consider it, thanks.
Bonus: Stop asking about future plans for my uterus, goddammit.

I sound very crotchety, and I know people are just excited for us, but I sort of wish some of that excitement could rub off on me, you know? Plus I am not a squealing kind of gal in general, so I can't really get it up for favors and china and a half dozen bridesmaids. I picked what I like, you get what you get. Come or don't.

See, there's the crotchety again.
Sigh.

Posted 11/3/2009 9:37 PM - 42 Views - 14 eProps - 8 comments

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Ok, Steph, I've read a few of your blogs with this same theme. Here's my 2 cents...

I'm with you on the low-key. I got married in front of the fireplace with 4 people plus my son there. Then we all 7 went to dinner at the Outback. Two of the friends took the son home with 'em so we could be alone our first married night. That's all.

But... I did realize that it *is* a big deal. Not the ceremony's details, the glitter and the flowers. No, it's a big deal to make a vow in front of friends and family and one's deity, if they have one. We took it hella seriously. It was a lifetime commitment -- as bit a decision as having a child.

I get frustrated at brides who can't think past the wedding day, sure. And it's refreshing to see someone that's excited about the marriage rather than the wedding. But you seem kinda defensive about it... and that's confusing.

And it's 4:40 a.m. and I should REALLy be in bed.

Happy Wednesday!

Posted 11/4/2009 4:42 AM by TheyWontFindMeHere - reply

Steph, I'm just so happy that you and Zeb are going to spend your life together and that you love each other that much. Don't let all the wedding questions get you down. It's your day and you do what you want, even if that means being crotchety! ;)

Posted 11/4/2009 6:30 AM by makemeatape - reply

LOL - That's the Stephanie I love! Actually I like the sweet ironic one as well, but they all work. Sorry I asked last week - it's routine! Plus we're all curious little rodents. Xo, best of luck with school & work this month.

Posted 11/4/2009 7:49 AM by pajan - reply

The friend who introduced Steve and I was the friend who married us, and we did cupcakes too. It's SO damn much cheaper, easier, and more fun than traditional cake. My family balked a tiny little bit, but our friends had a BLAST with them. We made sure we had more than enough cupcakes, so everyone got to stuff their faces to their hearts delight.

But I gotta say, I'm surprised you went with the white dress. I'd had you pegged as a purple kind of bride!

Posted 11/4/2009 9:25 AM by lupa

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Above all else, it is YOUR day - you do what is important and meaningful to you. And yes, everyone else can and should suck your balls. ;) Besides, I'm sure that ON the day you'll have a great 'ol time dancing and socializing as if it were any other party.

For the record, I think it's badass that you are excited about the marriage and could really give a rat's ass about the wedding. I cannot count the number of people who have it the other way around and I think that's a horrible way to start a life together. I wish you both incredible success and happiness together. :)

Sorcia

Posted 11/4/2009 1:32 PM by sorcia

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